How to keep your marriage Red Hott!

Relationships are easy, People are complicated. It's the people evolved in ANY relationship that keeps things complicated. Once we learn more about our spouses likes and dislikes, we can begin to journey to everlasting love. First a marriage is much like an very long rope with each spouse on opposite ends. Each time there is an unfavorable act (lies, arguments, betrayal, etc) on behalf of either spouse that hurts the marriage causing a knot to form in the rope. Pretty soon neither person can move around freely, because the rope is too small. Has your love dance become a hassle? Wouldn't it be nice to get rid of those love knots to allow the love between the two flow freely again?



For a long time I thought that "loving" my husband was enough to keep us together. In time I learned that "doing" things for the man I love, will show him that I want us to be together. We feel in love with one another when we were dating because every thing was fresh and brand new. Each date was exciting because we "did" things that made it so - I would dress my best each time I saw him. He would take me to his favorite places, and send me special gifts - exotic flowers, pashmina scarfs, hand crafted ceramic figurines. We would walk hand and hand in public. I would laugh at his jokes. He would impress me with his hidden talents - juggling and Akita. I would give him candle lit massages. We wrote each other love notes. Then we got married. Over time the kids, the house, the bills, our jobs all became priority over DOING things that helped us fall in love with one another in the first place. So what did I do - I went back to basics. I began dating my husband again - I wear his favorite outfits. I dress to impress every day. I make regular trips to the hair and nail salon. I cook his favorite meals and desserts. I brought plenty of candles for those intimate late nights. I LISTENED, LAUGHED, and LEARNED from our conversations every day. I wanted him to know that I didn't take our love or our marriage for granted. I appreciated everything about him, about us, and about our marriage.

So how do you keep a marriage red hot? Never go to bed angry. Talk. Talk. Talk. Sleep in the same bed every night. Sleep together in a bed no bigger than Queen size so you two can snuggle together. Find out what your spouse loves, and just make the magic happen. Finally, in order to hold on to the love you have - recycle, reuse, renew everything about your relationship. A new hairstyle, bright colored outfits, or wearing his favorite color lingerie will turn up the heat to your marriage, and best of all - your spouse will appreciate your efforts. 

Women like to be adored. Men like to be supported. Work together to keep your love rope free of knots, and it will definitely turn your marriage red hott. Good marriages are great on purpose. If he buys you an outfit, wear it. Give the kids a bath, so she have a few hours to herself. Do something on his "honey to do" list. Load and unload the dishwasher a few times a week, and give her time to do something other than housework. Wink at him from across a crowded room.Whisper something sexy in her ear at a party. Get a blanket, a small picnic basket of wine, crackers and cheese, go in the yard. Gaze into each others eyes or the stars above, and talk out your dreams for yourself and each other. Compliment his achievements in the house, and on the job. Tell her how much you appreciate everything she does to keep the balance between family and work. Buy her small gifts to show her that you are thinking of her outside the bedroom. Surprise him with his favorite dinner and dessert after a particularly difficult week at work. In other words, let your marriage become the best "date" you ever had.

Remember, you want 911 red hott when it comes to your marriage. If you don't hear "love" sirens, it's time to turn up the heat. Believe me - you can never be too hott for your spouse. Make him sweat!!!